Negative Feedback Sucks!
It’s officially fall when you wake up with a sore throat, stuffy nose, and crusties in your eyes (TMI?) Last year during this time is when I had a lot of work come my way. I’m hoping it’s the same way this year!
So I’ve had some negative backlash about my part in the music video I previously posted. If you haven’t watched it, it’s a political satire video about women who desire to be political wives so that they can have their husbands cheat on them, go on Oprah, write a book about it, etc.
A close family friend was disturbed by it all. He didn’t think it was funny. He was disappointed that during my scene, I was dressed sexily and had an image of Abe Lincoln as a censor for my “parts.”
I wanted to say “Of course we had Abe Lincoln in between my legs, we knew exactly what we were doing! It's Abe Lincoln between a black woman’s legs!” But I could not say that because this man is such a close family friend, a successful actor and singer in is own right, and someone who’s opinion I value.
I began to feel really self-conscious about all the comments I was getting pertaining to my scene. People love it. I think it’s funny. (Watch it below if you haven't seen it!)
But is it funny at the expense of myself? Should I question the intent of my group, as my family friend suggests?
I realize that as a black woman, I have so many factors I have to think about as a performer – issues of race and gender make things so complicated. The history of African Americans make it so that I have to constantly evaluate what roles I’m choosing.
Anyone else ever feel this way?